Have you ever had what I call Nathan moments? These are those times when you have chosen, spoken, or acted badly – and the Holy Spirit of God/Allah tugs your heart with a situation, differen…
Source: Righteousness or Rightness
Be angry and sin not; do not let the sun go down upon your wrath. Ephesians 4:26 So, yeah – I’m thinking about the steep increase in social division, destruction, and animosity…
Source: Fighting Fair
Be angry and sin not; do not let the sun go down upon your wrath. Ephesians 4:26
So, yeah – I’m thinking about the steep increase in social division, destruction, and animosity over seemingly ‘every little thing.’ I’m reflecting on some recent conflicts up close between people that you’d expect to know better, but wounded people tend to hurt others – even people they truly love.
This list of factors in ‘fair fights’ arose out of these reflections. It is helpful for me to review; I hope the same is true for you. The world can be such a better place if we agreeably disagree, without harming the other person. It is possible to even ‘win an issue’ without ‘losing a friend.’ And we never know which adversary actually may be right, or providing an important ‘learning experience’ in our life! Here goes:
Fighting fair means:
Not wanting to destroy the PERSON to make (or win) a point
Refusing to use personal details about someone to shut them down
Refusing to generalize and make “all/always/none/never” statements to discuss a single issue, idea, or episode
Refusing to hide behind implications of personal impenetrability while jabbing deep into an individual or group soft spot
Remembering that you do not want to do damage – even when you feel threatened – at a spiritual/emotional, or even physical, level
Staying teachable – even by attackers or opposing views – being ready to LEARN from the conversation
Remembering that teachers MUST always be ready to learn – new and even inconvenient/uncomfortable or devastating and scary (new to you) truth.
Refusing to use the other person’s private (unique to them) details to silence their point of view
Remembering that the enemy is NOT the person or position before you at the moment
Remembering that the enemy is ignorance or lies, and it/he seeks to steal, kill, or destroy
Being willing to ‘lose ground or stature’ to win the true peace (not some Band-Aid placebo that ends the conversation and “stuffs the core” in a “let’s be nice now” kind of door-closing control statement)
Settle differences quickly – before the day ends; win or lose the issue, win the friend
Poor examples of ‘fair fights’:
A professor intimidating a student on the basis of his professional background when the student has asked a difficult, embarrassing, but earnest question. Authority figure dropping back to personal degrading of the student’s backgroundor education level and puffing/buttressing their own, declaring “I am impenetrable and you are my prey, so shut up and be nice – see? I’m nice.”
A marital quarrel about a specific purchase at a certain time – that devolves into attacks on the spouse’s family, training or character, and shuts the heart-door when the spouse on defense refuses to engage at that destructive level. Then the attacker refuses to seek truth and optimum outcome because they are not given permission to steam-roller the home or bond (“my way or the highway”) on a point worthy of mutual input.
Political leaders (in government, religion, media, education, or professional circles) that hide behind negative labels and misuse of language to gain power from an illegitimate place – a weak argument pushed through via name-calling and bullying.
If these guidelines don’t give us pause at the water cooler, bar, dinner table, or in social media, we are either already tried in the fire of fairness and practicing the law of love – OR – we are so blind we don’t know we can’t see, and we are probably thrashing our way through life, leaving devastation in our wake.
If this list is Fairness 101, then 1 Corinthians 13, in the Holy Bible, is Fairness 201-501! How would our worlds change and lives improve if we were to review the elements of mature, healthy love – and commit ourselves to live out that “law of love.”
We live in a layered reality, in this time/space/matter continuum – called “our day.” Not that it has ever been different from the time our first parents were expelled from the G…
Source: Believe not every spirit, but try the spirits whether they are of God: because many false prophets/voices have gone out into the world. 1 John 4:1
Here is the truth – the word of hope and joy for this day, and every day!
Life DOES swallow death, and Jesus Christ/Isa/Yesua/Yeshua has won it!
This Good News of His Kingdom is for EVERYONE, not just some little club…
We need to GET this – it is ours, individually and collectively – the life and work of Jesus is complete!
He declared this from the Cross and Father God/Allah/YHWH confirmed it by raising Him up on the Third Day and seating Him at His right hand forever.
The Name… Ha Shem… Hashemites… Connect the dots…
The Good News is out of the box! It is for everyone – no need to fight about it – we don’t kill for it, we LIVE for it — there’s plenty for all — Grace, forgiveness, cleansing, new life, light on the Straight Path to Father’s House, our first and last Home!