Fighting Fair

Be angry and sin not; do not let the sun go down upon your wrath.  Ephesians 4:26 So, yeah – I’m thinking about the steep increase in social division, destruction, and animosity…

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Fighting Fair

 

 

Be angry and sin not; do not let the sun go down upon your wrath.  Ephesians 4:26

So, yeah – I’m thinking about the steep increase in social division, destruction, and animosity over seemingly ‘every little thing.’  I’m reflecting on some recent conflicts up close between people that you’d expect to know better, but wounded people tend to hurt others – even people they truly love.
This list of factors in ‘fair fights’ arose out of these reflections.  It is helpful for me to review; I hope the same is true for you.  The world can be such a better place if we agreeably disagree, without harming the other person.  It is possible to even ‘win an issue’ without ‘losing a friend.’  And we never know which adversary actually may be right, or providing an important ‘learning experience’ in our life!  Here goes:

Fighting fair means:

  • Not wanting to destroy the PERSON to make (or win) a point

  • Refusing to use personal details about someone to shut them down

  • Refusing to generalize and make “all/always/none/never” statements to discuss a single issue, idea, or episode

  • Refusing to hide behind implications of personal impenetrability while jabbing deep into an individual or group soft spot

  • Remembering that you do not want to do damage – even when you feel threatened – at a spiritual/emotional, or even physical, level

  • Staying teachable – even by attackers or opposing views – being ready to LEARN from the conversation

  • Remembering that teachers MUST always be ready to learn – new and even inconvenient/uncomfortable or devastating and scary (new to you) truth.

  • Refusing to use the other person’s private (unique to them) details to silence their point of view

  • Remembering that the enemy is NOT the person or position before you at the moment

  • Remembering that the enemy is ignorance or lies, and it/he seeks to steal, kill, or destroy

  • Being willing to ‘lose ground or stature’ to win the true peace (not some Band-Aid placebo that ends the conversation and “stuffs the core” in a “let’s be nice now” kind of door-closing control statement)

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Settle differences quickly – before the day ends; win or lose the issue, win the friend

Poor examples of ‘fair fights’:

  • A professor intimidating a student on the basis of his professional background when the student has asked a difficult, embarrassing, but earnest question. Authority figure dropping back to personal degrading of the student’s backgroundor education level and puffing/buttressing their own, declaring “I am impenetrable and you are my prey, so shut up and be nice – see? I’m nice.”

  • A marital quarrel about a specific purchase at a certain time – that devolves into attacks on the spouse’s family, training or character, and shuts the heart-door when the spouse on defense refuses to engage at that destructive level. Then the attacker refuses to seek truth and optimum outcome because they are not given permission to steam-roller the home or bond (“my way or the highway”) on a point worthy of mutual input.

  • Political leaders (in government, religion, media, education, or professional circles) that hide behind negative labels and misuse of language to gain power from an illegitimate place – a weak argument pushed through via name-calling and bullying.

If these guidelines don’t give us pause at the water cooler, bar, dinner table, or in social media, we are either already tried in the fire of fairness and practicing the law of love – OR – we are so blind we don’t know we can’t see, and we are probably thrashing our way through life, leaving devastation in our wake.

If this list is Fairness 101, then 1 Corinthians 13, in the Holy Bible, is Fairness 201-501!  How would our worlds change and lives improve if we were to review the elements of mature, healthy love – and commit ourselves to live out that “law of love.”

Just sayin’

 

 

 

Brexit pushed the stock market down: O the horror

This is one of the best and funniest explanations of media-market-reality I e ever seen!

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Brexit pushed the stock market down: O the horror

Stocks go up, go down: does it really mean anything?

By Jon Rappoport

An investor asked God, “Is the stock market an intrinsically woven part of the universe You created?”

And God said, “Only if you believe I wanted to create a new sucker every minute.”

In the wake of the Brexit vote, and in many other cases where an event is said to be “negative,” stocks plummet. Major media promote these downward actions as evidence that “something bad has happened,” and the “economy is suffering” because of it.

On the other hand, if the general trend of the stock market is up, and “new highs” are reached, media claim the economy is “recovering” or “in good shape,” or “booming.”

Indeed, the movements of the market are used as critiques of political and economic choices and happenings. “X policy-move shouldn’t have…

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